The Five Love Languages
Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don't understand our partner's requirements, or even our own. We all have a "love tank" that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others. Dr. Chapman's love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
This quiz might help you work out which is your love language!
The Quiz
For each pair of statements, choose the one that fits you best. For an accurate result, you should choose one from each pair. If you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine what you would like from a potential partner or partners.
I like to receive notes of affirmation from you. | | or | | I like it when you hug me. |
I like to spend one-to-one time with you. | | or | | I feel loved when you give me practical help. |
I like it when you give me gifts. | | or | | I like taking long walks with you. |
I feel loved when you do things to help me. | | or | | I feel loved when you touch me. |
I feel loved when you hold me in your arms. | | or | | I feel loved when I receive a gift from you. |
I like to go to places with you. | | or | | I like to hold hands with you. |
I feel loved when you affirm me. | | or | | Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me. |
I like to sit close to you. | | or | | I like for you to tell me that I am attractive / handsome. |
I like to spend time with you. | | or | | I like to receive little gifts from you. |
I know you love me when I help you. | | or | | Your words of acceptance are important to me. |
I like to be together when we do things. | | or | | I like the kind words you say to me. |
I feel whole when we hug. | | or | | What you do affects me more than what you say. |
I value your praise and try to avoid your criticism. | | or | | Several inexpensive gifts mean more to me than one large gift. |
I feel closer to you when you touch me often. | | or | | I feel close when we are talking or doing something together. |
I like you to compliment my achievments. | | or | | I know you love me when you do things for me that you don't enjoy doing. |
I like for you to touch me when you walk by. | | or | | I like when you listen to me sympathetically. |
I really enjoy receiving gifts from you. | | or | | I feel loved when you help me with my home projects. |
I like for you to compliment my appearance. | | or | | I feel loved when you take the time to understand my feelings. |
I feel secure when you are touching me. | | or | | Your acts of service make me feel loved. |
I appreciate the many things you do for me. | | or | | I like receiving gifts that you make. |
I really enjoy the feeling I get when you give me your undivided attention. | | or | | I really enjoy the feeling I get when you do some act of service for me. |
I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift. | | or | | I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with meaningful words (written or spoken). |
I feel loved when you help me out with my chores. | | or | | I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift. |
I appreciate it when you remember special days with a gift. | | or | | I appreciate it when you listen patiently and don't interrupt me. |
I enjoy extended trips with you. | | or | | I like to know that you are concerned enough to help me with my daily task. |
Kissing me unexpectedly excites me. | | or | | Giving me a gift for no occasion excites me. |
I like to be told that you appreciate me. | | or | | I like for you to look at me when we are talking. |
Your gifts are always special to me. | | or | | I feel good when you are touching me. |
I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me. | | or | | I feel loved when you enthusiastically do a task I have requested. |
I need to be touched every day. | | or | | I need your words of affirmation daily. |
For results, do try it on http://www.youthnetsouthampton.org.uk/breakout/lovelanguages.php
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